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Why cant I stop what I am doing?

 

People can't control how they feel, or at least not for long. You may have suffered the consequences of continuing your behaviour, but knowing that isn't enough. Change occurs when trust is formed in alternative forms of gratification, such as enriching relationships, non-sexual interests or choosing long term goals over the quick fix. Change can be hard and feelings of loss may be part of the process, but the benefits will be immeasurable.

 

 

How do I know if I have a problem?

 

As everyone has a different outlook on sex and sexuality, and a diagnosis is not determined by the amount of sex that you have, but by the affect that it is having, or could have on your wellbeing.

 

Some factors that may indicate an addiction include:

 

  • Continuing the behaviour despite the consequences

  • Problematic use of the Internet

  • Exploiting sexual partners to your advantage

  • Not living up to shared relationship values

  • Failing to take care of your sexual health 

  • Attempts to stop sexual behaviour, that have failed

  • Felling out of control

  • Hurting someone that you love through dishonesty

  • Feelings of shame and guilt

  • Prioritising sex or pornography over other activities

  • Feeling sexually unsatisfied

 

 

What are the fees and commitment?

My fees for Individuals is £60 and its £70 for Couples .

I work with clients on a weekly, or twice weekly basis. 

 

Weekly attendance is  important for the therapy to progress. Missed and cancelled sessions (even with notice) are payable in full.

 

What happens at the first session?

 

I ask people to attend an initial first session for 50 minutes before we agree to work together. This gives you an opportunity to tell me about yourself , a kind of mini autobiography, and to find out more about how I work. It also provides us both with the opportunity to ensure that I am someone who can support and help you.

 

Will our discussions be confidential ?

 

Everything we talk about is confidential. The only time that a counsellor has a duty to break confidentiality is when someone indicates they be at significant risk of harming themselves or others.